the reason you had so much trouble is not because of the men, but because of this strange dissociation of the men and women. Instead of the smooth, helpful interelationship, you have so much misery. I never knew—of course not, how could I ?—that there could be such misery. To have two kinds of people, evidently adapted for such perfect coordinate action—once in a while you see it, even now—and then to have them hurt and degrade one another so."